Maybe I'm making a mistake
I'm beginning to think it's not going to work.
This whole..living together with kids thing.
I mean..we are good together..just us, and things would be fine. But putting 4 kids together...3 are mine, and one is his. I don't know that this is gonna work.
When the almost 20 yr old is griping excessively about the almost 12 yr old because he gets on his nerves....
When the 16 yr old tells me that he doesn't like going over there b/c there's nothing to do..
When the 10 and almost 12 yr old stay in trouble the whole evening b/c they are loud and getting on our nerves....
Maybe I'm making a mistake. Maybe I really should wait until the kids are gone before trying to cohabitate with someone again. I mean...that was the original plan I made for myself 8 years ago.
Maybe it's gonna be too hard.
I can't keep everyone happy. I'm not finding a good balance.
If tonight was any indication....then maybe I shouldn't do it.
I just want everything to go smoothly...for everyone to be able to handle this transition well...no boat rocking. I hate boat rocking.
What if it's gonna be too hard?
This whole..living together with kids thing.
I mean..we are good together..just us, and things would be fine. But putting 4 kids together...3 are mine, and one is his. I don't know that this is gonna work.
When the almost 20 yr old is griping excessively about the almost 12 yr old because he gets on his nerves....
When the 16 yr old tells me that he doesn't like going over there b/c there's nothing to do..
When the 10 and almost 12 yr old stay in trouble the whole evening b/c they are loud and getting on our nerves....
Maybe I'm making a mistake. Maybe I really should wait until the kids are gone before trying to cohabitate with someone again. I mean...that was the original plan I made for myself 8 years ago.
Maybe it's gonna be too hard.
I can't keep everyone happy. I'm not finding a good balance.
If tonight was any indication....then maybe I shouldn't do it.
I just want everything to go smoothly...for everyone to be able to handle this transition well...no boat rocking. I hate boat rocking.
What if it's gonna be too hard?
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I put you in my post today....maybe that will cheer you up a little sweet Mom....blessings
These kids are always going to be fighting or too loud. It wouldn't matter who's kids they were.
Maybe you could talk to the 20 year old about learning to deal with it since he is an adult!
If you love each other it's not a mistake.
We were all so careful not to upset them...oh, how hard this was on them.
But you know what? My then fiance said, they will have bosses they don't like, co-workers, teachers...it's our house and it's our way.
If they can't follow our rules and be polite then they need to find somewhere else to live.
It didn't clear it all up but it did help a lot.
And I had always done something called "free talk" with my kids...setting a timer and allowing them to say whatever they needed to get off their chests.
The big rule of "free talk" was always that you could never bring it up again or tell anyone what they had told you UNLESS it involved a wish to hurt themselves or others.
It was a good tool.
Take a deep breath.
You will get through this.
Hugs and Hope.
Happy Mother's Day