DecJoMo 13: a letter
Day 13- A letter to someone who has hurt you recently
Dear Jeanette,
I know that over the years we have not seen eye to eye on lots of things. We've always gotten along, had good times, and loved each other. When you joined our family and became my sister, I treated you no differently than I did Shelli. I've been there for you through marriages, childbirths, divorces, deaths....all of it.
I know you love me, and I know that when you say biting things, it's not to directly hurt me. Your sarcasm and sharp tongue are the way you cope with your insecurities...always putting others down, trying to look smarter than everyone else. I get it. I do. We all know that's just how you are and we overlook it.
You've even admitted being jealous of certain things and I admired you for doing so.
But this summer, when you got mad over something trivial, and you and your husband made a big deal over it all, and then you told our mom that your husband "has a hard time tolerating Robin".....it just shocked me. I accepted him as part of our family from the get go. Even tho he is much like you in his sense of humor/sarcasm/personality. I let things go b/c he was your guy. When you married him, noone was more happy you'd found someone than me. I've always done all I could to make him feel included. So to find out he can hardly "tolerate" me....it was a shock and it hurt me.
No...I don't like a lot of the things he does and the way he treats your older son. I think he talks a lot about stuff he knows little about, and tries to be the expert on everything. Maybe it's b/c he's so much younger than the rest of us and trying to prove himself....I dunno. But we all have overlooked it.
But now...now I have a hard time even being in the same room with him, much less being nice to him. I am, of course, going to be nice to him....but it still hurts me to know his feelings of me.
But whatever....I will not let it affect my feelings for y'all's son, my nephew, nor keep me from participating in family events. And I'm trying hard not to let it affect the way I see you now, too. Even though we all tolerate a lot from each other, it's just not something you say out loud. Not in a family.
Your sister,
Robin
Dear Jeanette,
I know that over the years we have not seen eye to eye on lots of things. We've always gotten along, had good times, and loved each other. When you joined our family and became my sister, I treated you no differently than I did Shelli. I've been there for you through marriages, childbirths, divorces, deaths....all of it.
I know you love me, and I know that when you say biting things, it's not to directly hurt me. Your sarcasm and sharp tongue are the way you cope with your insecurities...always putting others down, trying to look smarter than everyone else. I get it. I do. We all know that's just how you are and we overlook it.
You've even admitted being jealous of certain things and I admired you for doing so.
But this summer, when you got mad over something trivial, and you and your husband made a big deal over it all, and then you told our mom that your husband "has a hard time tolerating Robin".....it just shocked me. I accepted him as part of our family from the get go. Even tho he is much like you in his sense of humor/sarcasm/personality. I let things go b/c he was your guy. When you married him, noone was more happy you'd found someone than me. I've always done all I could to make him feel included. So to find out he can hardly "tolerate" me....it was a shock and it hurt me.
No...I don't like a lot of the things he does and the way he treats your older son. I think he talks a lot about stuff he knows little about, and tries to be the expert on everything. Maybe it's b/c he's so much younger than the rest of us and trying to prove himself....I dunno. But we all have overlooked it.
But now...now I have a hard time even being in the same room with him, much less being nice to him. I am, of course, going to be nice to him....but it still hurts me to know his feelings of me.
But whatever....I will not let it affect my feelings for y'all's son, my nephew, nor keep me from participating in family events. And I'm trying hard not to let it affect the way I see you now, too. Even though we all tolerate a lot from each other, it's just not something you say out loud. Not in a family.
Your sister,
Robin
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