Why Can't I Have it All?

I was talking with my 27 year old cousin yesterday, who is in a similar dating relationship to mine. I date a man who is not much older than me chronologically, yet has the ailments and libido of an octogenarian. She dates a man in his early 50s whose body naturally has a low sex drive.
We were discussing the ever present dilemma of a loving relationship vs. a sexually satisfying one....and why life wasn't letting us have both.
Both of us are very happy with our men and the relationships we have, except for the sex factor. Neither of us gets it very much.

I asked her why...why can't we have both?
My young grasshopperish relation replied, "because if there's anything I've learned in life, it's that it is a compromise."

She said a mouthful.

Then I read a friend's blog earlier that stated her *baby* tells her "it's all in what you can live with".
I've expressed that same thought before...that we settle for "what we can live with". We look at the good and the bad, and we decide if the good is good enough to outweigh the bad.

And, in my relationship, it is.
He loves me.
He's good to me.
He gives amazing back and foot rubs, without my asking!
He wants to spend the rest of his life with me.
We have more FUN than I've had in any relationship.

He's definitely a keeper!
But why am I fated to be sexually unfulfilled for the rest of my life?
I just want to be ravaged by a passionate man. On a regular basis!

Oh..he tries. He really does. He does his best to do what he thinks *satisfies* me.
And he's good at what he does.
But it's just not the same as "the real thing".

*sighs*

Life is nothing but compromise.

But we CAN'T we have it all?